(TW: diet talk and ED)
People are afraid of food. Women, in particular, have many foods they avoid for no good reason. I had a friend in college who would not try an avocado. She was afraid she might like it and then never be able to stop eating avocados and die from all the fat. As a child, my mother would hide candy around the house. She was afraid the sight of it would make her eat it and then, I guess, fat demons would be released from hell. I currently have friends who “eat clean”. What does that even mean? They wash their zucchini before chowing down? Actually, it means only eating things that are un-fun. The implication is that the rest of us dietary heathens are stuffing our faces with dirty crap. The truth is they are afraid of certain foods because they think a donut with turn their glutes into goo and then their lives will be meaningless. I spent decades being terrified of anything that wasn’t air. Of course, the big ones scared me: pizza, bread, cake, peanut butter. But I was also petrified of apples and raisins. I once cried because I “lost control” and ate eight raisins…
Food is just food. An avocado is creamy and delicious and cute. It won’t damage you in any way (unless you throw it at someone who is unprepared, so just don’t do that, ok?). Candy, to borrow a phrase, is dandy. And if it magically unleashes fat demons, who cares? I bet they’re a hoot to hang out with. If you want to eat donuts and pasta every day, go for it! Do what makes you and your tummy happy. If you need to control something, plant a garden or try to not speed on the freeway. Food is just food and eating what makes you happy will enrich your life and your body. Embrace those things that scare you and pretty soon you’ll forget why you stopped eating them in the first place.
Last night I made these drawings in my sketchbook for a zine I’m making called WARPED.
It was fun making looser/weirder stuff than I usually do.
©Phoebe Wahl 2014
“Look. See, some are smaller, some are fatter, some grow to the left, some to the right, some even have lost some petals. All kinds of observable differences.”
Recently Kaige told us he wishes he could be both a boy and a girl because he likes playing princesses as much as ninjas and he doesn’t want to get made fun of. So we bought him a tutu and gave him a makeover. Meet the new and improved Kaige. If you have a problem with it please keep it to yourself and kindly stay out of his life. Which would be a shame because as you can see he’s freakin’ awesome! #letmebeme #mumblr #stopbullying
WHAT A FUCKING RAD KID WITH RAD HAIR
Julia Cameron on how to get out of your own way and unblock the “spiritual electricity” of creative flow – a timelessly wonderful read from 1992
As I always say, you need to give up weighing yourself! The number will not tell you anything about your true health and wellbeing. It only serves as an obsession or trigger to those who are healing from an eating disorder.
Amen Sister :)